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Let's talk about it podcast: your hymen and your virginity


This podcast will tell you everything you need to know about virginity and hymens. Gabriel will reveal very important information about losing your virginity.

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00:00:35 My name is Gabrielle and I'm here to talk with you about your virginity.
00:00:40 A virgin is a person who has never engaged in sexual intercourse.
00:00:45 It's a popular myth that the hymen is the marker of virginity,
00:00:49 and the idea of virginity has often been linked to breaking the hymen.
00:00:54 The belief that there is a mysterious, transparent barrier in the vagina
00:00:58 that only virgins have is ridiculous at best and not scientifically accurate.
00:01:03 Bleeding after sex has been incorrectly claimed to be proof of an unbroken hymen
00:01:08 and thus proof that a woman has not had sex before.
00:01:12 However, you should know that your hymen can break in a variety of ways
00:01:16 outside from having sex, and some women are born without one.
00:01:21 In this episode I will answer five main questions
00:01:24 about the hymen and virginity that you need to know.
00:01:27 So let's start with the first question.
00:01:29 What is your hymen?
00:01:31 Your hymen is a thin fold of membrane around the vaginal opening,
00:01:35 kind of like a piece of plastic wrap about 1 to 2 centimeters
00:01:39 inside your vaginal opening.
00:01:41 Chances are that even if your hymen is intact, you won't be able to see it.
00:01:46 It's thin and fleshy, colored in a place where you have flaps and
00:01:50 The hymen is just a part of the vaginal canal,
00:01:53 that really doesn't serve a purpose.
00:01:55 We do not entirely know what causes the tearing of the hymen,
00:01:59 but it's totally normal
00:02:00 and happens to everyone.
00:02:03 Question number two: How can the hymen break?
00:02:06 We know now that some people are born without hymens and some people's
00:02:10 hymens can be broken from doing ordinary things like gymnastics or using a tampon.
00:02:15 What is important is not
00:02:17 whether someone hymen is broken or they have engaged in sexual behaviors,
00:02:21 but that they choose to have sex when it is healthy and right for them.
00:02:26 Now, what does it feel like when your hymen breaks
00:02:30 You can break your hymen by moving around without even knowing it.
00:02:33 Some women notice some light bleeding.
00:02:36 Some women don't blead at all.
00:02:38 It's different for everyone.
00:02:39 Once your hymen has been broken, it doesn't grow back.
00:02:43 If my hymen is broken, does it mean my virginity is broken too?
00:02:48 Virginity is not something that breaks.
00:02:50 Being a virgin has nothing to do with your hymen.
00:02:54 It means that you haven't had consensual penetrative sex.
00:02:58 Sharing your body with another person for the first time or losing
00:03:01 your virginity should be your choice and happen only with your consent.
00:03:06 If I have been raped, have I lost my virginity?
00:03:09 Rape is a crime and never your fault.
00:03:12 Sharing your body with another person for the first time or losing
00:03:15 your virginity is based on consensual penetrative sex.
00:03:20 Rape is not consensual.
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